As we get ready to bring in a new year, many of us take the time to reflect on the prior year and embrace the prospect of new beginnings/possibilities for the future. I have always used the new year to set goals for myself through resolutions. I quit smoking cigarettes on a new year, began working out on a new year, began a weight loss path on a new year, and many other things. The other day a coworker asked if I have any resolutions this year.
“To be happy, loving and kind,” was my response.
For the first time that I can remember, I don’t have any major resolutions for myself and it feels great! For me, that indicates I’m happy with my life where it stands right now!! And – happiness, love and kindness are what make life worth living. Many times when I have set resolutions, it was because there was something I judged as “wrong” with me that needed changed. I could easily say that I need to eat better, drink less soda, work out more, etc. There is nothing wrong with making goals like this, but the most important part of any resolution is to do it out of love for yourself, not because of fear or judgment. We, as humans, are always judging and labeling the things in our lives as good or bad. I have also let what I think others/society judges as good or bad about me influence my decisions or goals.
One of the best, and hardest, lessons I have learned the past few years is to stop judging situations as positive/negative. When I can allow things to be as they are, without judgment, it is incredibly freeing. I do believe everything happens for a reason – even the “bad” things. We are always being guided and taught through the experiences of our life whether we want to believe it or not. The harder we fight against the things we don’t like, the longer it will take to learn what we are being shown. When we are able to “let it go” and go with the flow, life becomes a lot easier, and a lot more fun! I want to experience everything from the viewpoint of an infant. To them, everything just IS until someone comes along and tells them otherwise. I want to experience what life has in store for me without judgment.
Right now, my physical experience is one that myself, and many others, would label as “negative”. After all, no one would ask to be in a wheelchair or as limited as my body was. Believe me, if given the choice, this would not be my first choice. However, I do believe that it happened for a reason. It was because of MS that I was introduced to Dr. Joe Dispenza and meditation. It was because of Dr. Joe and meditation that I found/nurtured my connection to God and everything. It was through my connection to God that I am finding peace and love in this and every situation I am presented in my life.
So, for this New Year, I am not going to make any resolution to change who I am. This year, I am going to embrace myself where I am and live the best, happiest life possible. Because I’m pretty great right where I am. I will love myself the way God loves me and EVERYONE on this planet – unconditionally!! So for me 2023 is New Year, same badass me!!
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2 responses to “New Year, Same Me”
You are one of the strongest most loving people I know.
Thank you so much! That means a lot!